Image: a table with three candles and some pine boughs

Image: a table with three candles and some pine boughs

Happy Holiday season everyone!! The few months from Halloween through Thanksgiving on to Christmas and New Year’s, sometimes even stretching on to Valentine’s Day, are times of family, friends, and celebrations. However, they can also be times of stress, worry, conflict, and exhaustion. Today, we’re going to talk about how to keep yourself as healthy, centered, and happy as possible in the midst of this season.

If you’re anything like me, the holidays are a mixed bag. On the one hand, there are so many fun parties and I get to see lots of people I love who I may not see much the rest of the year. On the other, this season means stress over finances, little to no free time, crunches at work, and dealing with interpersonal conflicts with people I love but with whom I sometimes don’t get along.

Whenever you find yourself in the middle of a whirl of stresses, it’s important to remember to do what you need to do to take care of yourself. Do you need a long bath? A glass of wine? A few hours away from relatives? Take it. Take care of yourself.

When you notice yourself feeling overwhelmed or emotionally raw, check back in and see what you can do. Have you eaten recently? Slept enough? Drank water? Would having sex or masturbating help?

The same way that you deserve pleasure on an average day, you still deserve pleasure during this stressful time. Find ways to sneak in little bits of pleasure.

Remember that your “no” is still valuable, necessary, and okay during the holidays too. Just because someone wants your time or your attention or your money does not mean you have to give it to them. You have the right, and the responsibility, to say “no” when you need to in order to take care of yourself.

I’m keeping today pretty short, but know that you’ll get through this. Take care of yourself. Love yourself. Give yourself what you want and need. When you do, you’ll have that much more to give others.